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Age is just a number, and you're never too old to find love. But let's be real: dating after 40 can be a bit daunting. If you're single and dating in your 40s, you know that your patience, intuition, and emotional needs have changed over time, and so should your dating approach. It's important to take a step back and reevaluate your priorities before jumping back into the dating scene. Here are some tips on how to approach dating after 40. Create A List Of Priorities And Deal Breakers Before starting to look for a partner, make sure you have a clear idea of what you're looking for. Take some time to think about your priorities in a relationship. What are the qualities you want in a partner? What are your deal breakers? Things like being a cat or dog person, smoking preferences, or having kids can be important factors that determine the compatibility with a potential partner. Having a clear idea of what you want from a relationship will help you navigate the dating s...

Women in their 40s should have a different outlook on dating than those in their younger years. As we age, our priorities should change. What once seemed like an exciting project or a new endeavor may now feel like a waste of time. We reach a point where we no longer have time for "projects." And that includes men who don't have their shit together. A man must be stable, both financially and emotionally. We've invested time and energy building ourselves up and we deserve a partner who has done the same.  Once you reach a certain age, you can no longer afford to invest your time and energy into someone who isn't on the same page as you.  You've spent years working on yourself and improving your life. You've invested time and money into your education, career, and personal growth. You've learned the importance of taking care of your physical and mental health. So why should you settle for a man who hasn't done the same? A man who has done the work is...

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a man who keeps revisiting his past, unable to detach from his old ways? Do you often feel like you're with someone who is not truly committed to growing and evolving themselves? If so, then it's time to put an end to it. Ladies, stop recycling men! Recycling is when you take an old, outdated thing, and make a new use of it. You deserve a man who is continually evolving and reinventing himself—a man who is letting go of his past, his soul ties, and his youthful mindset.  In this post, we'll explore why you deserve better and how to avoid the pitfalls of recycling men who are stuck in their old ways. You deserve a man who is ready and willing to create a completely new version of himself. Someone who is committed to shedding his old ways, letting go of soul ties, and breaking free from younger mentalities. Recycled men often come with baggage that prevents them from truly growing and evolving. And if you're with someone...

Many women fall into the trap of settling for men who are not growing emotionally or mentally. So, today we're exploring the importance of investing in a partner who invests in themselves. We will look at the five warning signs that a man is not growing and why settling for less can be detrimental to your happiness. If you are ready to prioritize your own growth and fulfillment in a relationship, keep reading. Unwilling to be accountable A man who is not willing to take responsibility for his actions or mistakes is not growing. He may blame others for his problems, make excuses, or refuse to admit when he's wrong. This lack of accountability can cause major problems in a relationship, leading to mistrust, resentment, and emotional distance. If your partner is unwilling to be accountable, it's essential to have an honest conversation about how you feel and set clear boundaries. Unaware of his faults A man who doesn't recognize his faults and limitations is not growing. H...

There's nothing wrong with being physical with your partner, whether it's holding hands, cuddling, or kissing. However, when a man is only after your body and not your heart, he will show signs that can be easy to miss. It's important to recognize these signs to protect ourselves from being used and giving ourselves to the wrong people. If he's doing these things he may be using your for sex.  His touch is always sexual When you're in the company of a man who is only after your body, his touch will always have a sexual undertone. He'll initiate physical contact with the sole purpose of getting you into bed. You'll notice that his hand on your thigh or your shoulder will linger longer than necessary. If you're not comfortable with this type of physical contact, it's best to set boundaries with him sooner rather than later. He's not interested in intimate conversations A man who's interested in your heart will want to get to know you on a deepe...

We all come across weak men who blame others for their shortcomings. These men struggle with accountability and reject anything that challenges them to be better. In essence, they are narcissistic and self-centered. It is not easy to deal with such men, especially if you are in a relationship with them. Weak men often have fragile egos, and anything that threatens their fragile sense of self is perceived as a threat. We have to understand that these men are not secure within themselves, and they rely on external validation to feel good about themselves. Therefore, when you try to challenge them to be better, they feel like you are attacking them, and they become defensive. They cannot handle criticism, and they struggle with personal growth. One of the reasons why weak men struggle with personal growth is that they are afraid of change. They are comfortable in their current ways, and they are not willing to step out of their comfort zones. They fear the unknown, and they do not want to...

As a society, we've been taught that love knows no boundaries - not even financial ones. And while it's true that money isn't everything, it's important to recognize the impact that financial instability can have on a relationship. If you're considering dating a man who is currently broke, but still trying to date, you may want to think twice. Here are the reasons why you shouldn't date him if he's broke, and what negative effects it can have on your relationship. He's Going to Transfer Those Bad Priorities into a Relationship with You When someone is broke and still trying to date, it's a clear indication that their priorities aren't in order. If he's struggling to take care of himself financially, he's likely to prioritize instant gratification over long-term goals. This means that he may not understand the importance of saving money, setting financial goals, or investing in a shared future. If you're in a relationship with a man wh...

Ladies, it's time to stop dating needy men. You know the ones I'm talking about, the guys who seem to only take from the relationship and never give back. The ones who drain your energy, demand your attention and always need you to do something for them. If you're tired of being the Goodwill of your relationships and donating your vagina to men who don't deserve it, then this post is for you. First, let me clarify what I mean by “needy men.” These are men who are incapable of doing anything for themselves and believe that the world owes them something. They are the ones who always need you to babysit them emotionally or financially. When you’re dating a needy man, you are the one doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship. You're paying for the majority of expenses, driving them around, and picking up their messes.  Let me emphasize the importance of reciprocity in relationships. Relationships should be about give and take. When you're doing everything for ...

The hunt for the perfect man is never-ending. We want the total package – good looks, humor, wealth, great sex, and intelligence. However, statistics show that many men are not what they seem on the outside. Many of them are just little boys in a grown man's body. Immaturity comes in all shapes and sizes. Trouble happens when we assume that the exterior of a man represents the interior character. So let's talk about how to spot a real man, what qualities make them different from little boys. Photo by KoolShooters   Real men prioritize their mental health and well-being. Mental Health is often a topic that is rarely discussed in men, and some even consider it taboo. However, it is one of the greatest signs that a man is a real man. Real men prioritize their mental health by attending therapy sessions, taking breaks when overwhelmed and participate in activities that promote relaxation and self-care. They are not afraid to admit when things are becoming too much for them, and the...

Lying in a relationship is never a good sign. It shakes the foundation of trust, making it difficult for the relationship to move forward. If you've started to notice signs of dishonesty in your partner's behavior but can't pinpoint when they are lying, you're not alone. Fortunately, there's a simple solution to catch a liar red-handed. By paying attention to the details that led to your partner's complaints, you can see through their lies in no time. When you listen to your partner's complaints, you may notice the details they are telling you do not add up. For instance, if your partner says their ex is crazy, ask them to clarify the details that led to their ex's crazy behavior. If they struggle to answer or try to avoid the question, this may be a red flag to watch out for. When they do give you some details, note if they are consistent and reliable. Similarly, if your partner complains about being disrespected in their previous relationship, ask them...

Many of us have people in our lives who we love dearly, but who also tend to push our buttons. Whether it's a partner, family member, or friend, certain individuals can leave us feeling drained, disrespected, or taken advantage of. The good news is that we have the ability to set boundaries that protect our well-being and help us nurture positive, healthy relationships. In this blog post, we'll explore what boundaries are, why they're important, and ways to set and communicate boundaries effectively. What are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. They serve as a safety net for our emotional, physical, and psychological needs. Boundaries create a respectful space where we feel valued, heard, and seen. Saying "no" or setting limits on negative behavior is not a selfish act, but rather an act of self-care. Express How it Makes You Feel: One of the most effective ways to set boundaries is to communicate how...

We have all encountered rude people in our lives who don't realize how their behavior can overstep boundaries and cause others to feel disrespected. It can be tempting to use their behavior as an excuse to act rudely yourself in return, but doing so only perpetuates negativity. The key to becoming a class act is to respond to their behavior with calmness and compassion. Today, I am going to discuss how affirmations can help you achieve this goal. I have compiled a list of 19 affirmations that can help you respond to rude people in a positive way and improve your interactions. So, let's dive in! Photo by Madvortex 1) "I am patient and understanding" - When someone is being rude, it is easy to let our emotions take over. Instead, take a breath and remind yourself that others' actions often reflect something deeper going on in their lives. 2) "I like being polite" - Being polite may seem like an outdated courtesy in our fast-paced world, but it can make a w...

Procrastination affects everyone, regardless of gender or age. It's a common tendency that can hinder progress in various aspects of life. But, why do we procrastinate? I'm going to identify three possible reasons and present actionable solutions to conquer them.  Reason #1: Fear Fear is a powerful emotion that can paralyze us into inaction. Public speaking is an excellent example of something that many people fear. The thought of standing up in front of a group of people and speaking can be terrifying. But fear can also manifest itself in other ways, such as a fear of failure or a fear of what others will think of us.  Solution: Identify the source of your fear and challenge it. Ask yourself what scares you and whether it’s valid. Is your fear reasonable? Reconnect with your why and what's important about the task at hand. Focusing on your vision and purpose can give you the motivation to overcome your fears and take action. Reason #2: Lack of Information/Knowledge Feeli...

Have you ever wondered what integrity means? While it's often used interchangeably with honesty, integrity is actually a much broader concept. It involves adhering to moral and ethical principles, always being truthful and acting with sincerity. People with integrity are seen as reliable and trustworthy, which can boost their personal and professional growth. In this blog post, we'll explore the meaning of integrity and its significance in business and personal life. We'll also share some tips on how to achieve organizational-wide integrity. Photo by fauxels   The Meaning of Integrity Integrity is the practice of being honest and acting in accordance with your principles and values. It requires consistency and steadfastness in your actions, regardless of the circumstances. James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, recommends doing an integrity report to self-assess alignment between your values and actions. This includes living with integrity, setting higher standards, and ...

Leadership is not just about a title or a designation, it's about much more than that. It's about the impact you make, the influence you have, and the inspiration you bring to your team. Sometimes it can be challenging to step up and embrace the role of a leader. However, it's crucial to understand that leadership comes naturally when you immerse yourself in the vision of what you want to achieve and the changes you want to have in your team or organization. Impact, influence, and inspiration play a big role. Photo by Andrea Piacquadio   Impact: Impact involves getting results that matter, not just for yourself but also for your team and organization. This means understanding the vision, driving the right outcomes, and being willing to assess shortcomings and seek feedback. To achieve impact, you must be able to not just set goals, but also create a plan with measurable actions and milestones. Celebrating success and learning from failures will help you build on what has be...

What is true love between romantic partners? I'll tell you what it's not. True love is not candle lit dinners or grand gestures. It isn't walks on the beach or holding hands. Love is spiritual. It is a conscious and loving connection between partners that is free of judgment and unrealistic expectations. It does not conform to relationship norms. By understanding the deeper reasons for being in each other's lives, you can let go of fear and embrace your dynamic as it is. This level of intimacy allows for the healing of personal wounds through the presence of your partner. Should the time come, your inner knowingness, not fear, should dictate the end of the relationship. Photo by Mikhail Nilov   Love blossoms when two souls intertwine on a profound spiritual level. Regardless of your individual beliefs, spirituality serves as a fundamental pillar, shaping your belief system. Partners who align spiritually hold boundless potential for growth, constantly evolving together....

In today's modern world, women are rising to the forefront. However, many of us have hidden our precious qualities beneath external influences. It's time to reclaim our self-confidence and unleash our true potential. A self-confident person knows what they need to be happy and fearlessly pursues it. We are all born with the inherent belief that we can conquer the world, but as we navigate life, external pressures can erode our self-assurance. Whether it's the harsh realities we face or the expectations placed upon us, the impact is profound. To rediscover our true selves and regain our self-confidence, we must let go of external influences. Here are some practical tips to guide you on this empowering journey: 1. Embrace your "flaws" as strengths. Often, what we perceive as imperfections are invisible to others. Rather than hiding what you desperately want to hide, embrace your uniqueness and find liberation. 2. It's impossible to please everyone , and trying ...

Life can get a bit overwhelming as we get caught up in the frenzy of our daily responsibilities and obligations. From to-do lists to penciling in time, we try and control every aspect of our lives leaving little room for spontaneity. But what if we were to let go and allow things to flow naturally? What if by surrendering control and allowing ourselves to just be, we could experience a more genuine and fulfilling way of living. When we let things flow we open ourselves up to new possibilities, even if they deviate from our original plans. We let things happen in the moment without the constraints of how it should have happened, how it could have happened, or why it didn't happen. We stop conforming to societal expectations and worrying about how people are us. We live in the now and we show up as we are.  You may be wondering how you could do such a thing. You may feel like you have too many responsibilities. Too many people too not let down. An image to keep up. But by embracing a...

When it comes to relationships, there are certain topics that are often avoided, such as politics, religion, or even money. However, the latter is a crucial aspect in any partnership that can greatly influence the dynamics and longevity of the relationship. In particular, women tend to keep financial secrets from their partners early on, which can lead to misunderstandings, mistrust, and debt. As Manisha Thakor, a financial expert and co-author of “On My Own Two Feet,” advises, it’s important to be financially naked with your partner and have open and honest conversations about money. In this blog post, we’ll explore why financial honesty is crucial for relationships and how couples can improve their communication and management of finances. Photo by Mikhail Nilov   The first reason why financial honesty is critical in relationships is that it sets the foundation for trust. If one partner conceals their debt or overspending habits, it can lead to a power dynamic where they hold the...

Are you looking to buy your first home? Here are some tips that are essential and that can help you avoid commons mistakes first time home buyers make. Photo by Kindel Media Get pre-approved for a mortgage: Starting your home search without a mortgage pre-approval can be discouraging and time-consuming. Boost your reputation as a buyer and understand your budget by getting pre-approved. Consider all expenses: Don't just focus on the down payment and mortgage payment. Remember to account for closing charges, taxes, insurance, and upkeep costs. Being aware of these expenses will prevent future financial hardship. Shop around for the best mortgage: Don't settle for the first mortgage offer you come across. Take the time to research and compare offers from different lenders. You might find better terms or lower interest rates that can save you money in the long run. Don't skip the home inspection: Neglecting a home inspection can lead to unexpected costs down the line. It'...

Money management is key to building and maintaining wealth. And as women, it's important that we pay close attention to our finances and invest them wisely. One of the best financial tips that I've learned in my personal journey is to use different accounts for different purposes. By using this simple yet effective method, you can easily manage your money and reach your financial goals faster. How to set up different accounts: The first step is to determine which areas of your life require financial planning. This may include a retirement account, an emergency fund, a vacation fund, and so on. Then, open a separate account for each of these goals. Most banks offer free savings accounts, so take advantage of them. Once you have set up each account, determine the percentage of your income that should be allotted to each account. The benefits of using different accounts: By using different accounts, you can easily track your spending and savings. Each account is designed for a spe...

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you doubt your accomplishments and feel like a they happened because of luck, or being in the right place at the right time? Imposter Syndrome is a common phenomenon among high achievers, especially women. People with Imposter Syndrome may feel that they are not deserving of their achievements and fear being exposed as frauds. The exaggerated fear of failure sets a high bar for them, and small mistakes lead to feelings of guilt and inadequacy. This kind of thinking can have a significant impact on your life, holding you back from reaching your potential. However, it's reassuring to know that it's a common issue and there are ways to overcome it.  If you feel like you are constantly fighting with your own thoughts and struggling with self-doubt, you are not alone. Here are five roles of imposter syndrome and practical ways to overcome them. The Perfectionist: Perfectionists look for things to go perfectly, and they become chronic...