Authentically Nita

Many of us have people in our lives who we love dearly, but who also tend to push our buttons. Whether it's a partner, family member, or friend, certain individuals can leave us feeling drained, disrespected, or taken advantage of. The good news is that we have the ability to set boundaries that protect our well-being and help us nurture positive, healthy relationships. In this blog post, we'll explore what boundaries are, why they're important, and ways to set and communicate boundaries effectively. What are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. They serve as a safety net for our emotional, physical, and psychological needs. Boundaries create a respectful space where we feel valued, heard, and seen. Saying "no" or setting limits on negative behavior is not a selfish act, but rather an act of self-care. Express How it Makes You Feel: One of the most effective ways to set boundaries is to communicate how...

We have all encountered rude people in our lives who don't realize how their behavior can overstep boundaries and cause others to feel disrespected. It can be tempting to use their behavior as an excuse to act rudely yourself in return, but doing so only perpetuates negativity. The key to becoming a class act is to respond to their behavior with calmness and compassion. Today, I am going to discuss how affirmations can help you achieve this goal. I have compiled a list of 19 affirmations that can help you respond to rude people in a positive way and improve your interactions. So, let's dive in! Photo by Madvortex 1) "I am patient and understanding" - When someone is being rude, it is easy to let our emotions take over. Instead, take a breath and remind yourself that others' actions often reflect something deeper going on in their lives. 2) "I like being polite" - Being polite may seem like an outdated courtesy in our fast-paced world, but it can make a w...

Procrastination affects everyone, regardless of gender or age. It's a common tendency that can hinder progress in various aspects of life. But, why do we procrastinate? I'm going to identify three possible reasons and present actionable solutions to conquer them.  Reason #1: Fear Fear is a powerful emotion that can paralyze us into inaction. Public speaking is an excellent example of something that many people fear. The thought of standing up in front of a group of people and speaking can be terrifying. But fear can also manifest itself in other ways, such as a fear of failure or a fear of what others will think of us.  Solution: Identify the source of your fear and challenge it. Ask yourself what scares you and whether it’s valid. Is your fear reasonable? Reconnect with your why and what's important about the task at hand. Focusing on your vision and purpose can give you the motivation to overcome your fears and take action. Reason #2: Lack of Information/Knowledge Feeli...

In today's modern world, women are rising to the forefront. However, many of us have hidden our precious qualities beneath external influences. It's time to reclaim our self-confidence and unleash our true potential. A self-confident person knows what they need to be happy and fearlessly pursues it. We are all born with the inherent belief that we can conquer the world, but as we navigate life, external pressures can erode our self-assurance. Whether it's the harsh realities we face or the expectations placed upon us, the impact is profound. To rediscover our true selves and regain our self-confidence, we must let go of external influences. Here are some practical tips to guide you on this empowering journey: 1. Embrace your "flaws" as strengths. Often, what we perceive as imperfections are invisible to others. Rather than hiding what you desperately want to hide, embrace your uniqueness and find liberation. 2. It's impossible to please everyone , and trying ...

Break ups are never easy to deal with. The emotions that come with it— anger, heartache, confusion, and sadness—are different for everyone. Some may feel relief and joy from being single, while others can't help feeling lost and longing for their lost love. But regardless of how you feel, it's important to acknowledge that getting over a break up is part of the healing process. In this blog post, we'll go over some steps to help you get over it, recover your old self, and enjoy your life again. Stop all forms of communication with your ex. As much as it might hurt, cutting off all forms of communication with your ex-partner is necessary if you want to start the recovery process. This means blocking them on social media, deleting their number from your phone, and avoiding places or events they may attend. It's tempting to keep in touch, especially if you were close, but this only prolongs your pain and difficulties in moving forward. Distract yourself from your thoughts ...

Can being too nice be a relationship liability? When we think of someone as "nice," we often regard it as a positive quality to have. Being nice is frequently associated with traits such as kindness, empathy, and respect towards others. However, there are circumstances in which being too nice can signify a more significant problem. People who are too nice may struggle with setting boundaries, expressing their opinions, and making their voices heard. In this blog post, we will explore the concept of being "too nice" and how it can be a liability in a relationship. Photo by Kampus Production When Niceness is Not Genuine Niceness One of the main reasons why being "too nice" can be a liability is that it is not always genuine. Some people may be excessively nice as a way of avoiding conflict or pleasing others. Niceness, in this case, is a by-product of low self-esteem, a lack of assertiveness, or a fear of rejection. When you are constantly trying to please o...

Change is something that we all go through at various points in our lives. Whether it's a new job, a move to a new place, or a decision to improve your life, change can be both exciting and overwhelming. However, understanding the seven stages of change can help you navigate the process with ease and grace. In this blog post, we'll explore each stage and offer tips for how you can make the most of each one. So, if you're ready to embrace change and take your life to the next level, read on! Photo by Dinielle De Veyra Stage 1: Recognize the need for change and embrace it. The first stage of change is recognizing that you need to make a change and fully embracing it. Whether it's a need to improve your health, relationships, or career, recognizing that change is necessary is the key to moving forward. Embrace the change and take it as an opportunity to better yourself. Remember that wanting to improve yourself doesn't mean you're inferior - it's the first step...

Society often tells us that being single is a negative thing - that happiness and fulfillment come only when we're in a loving relationship. But the truth is, being single can actually be a wonderful thing - a time of self-discovery, personal growth, and happiness. In this blog post, we explore the joys of being single and how to make the most of this special time in your life. Photo by Andrea Piacquadio Reconnecting with Yourself Being single is the perfect time to reconnect with yourself. Instead of focusing on what you don't have (a romantic partner), try focusing on the things you do have. Spend time doing things you love; pursue your passions; learn a new skill or hobby. By focusing inwardly, you will not only deepen your self-awareness, but you will also develop independence and self-sufficiency. You may be surprised to find that the things you once thought you needed a partner to provide - like validation or emotional support - can actually come from within. Learning to ...

Time flies fast, and before you know it, a year has passed. We often find ourselves looking back and wondering where the time went, why we didn't do more, and how we could have been a better version of ourselves. But what if we could change our lives in one year? Small daily habits and mindset shifts can make a big difference in helping us become the best version of ourselves. Here are eight simple changes that can transform your life in one year. Photo by Leah Kelley 1. Stop Complaining and Appreciate How Lucky You Are Every Day.  Complaining does no good for anyone, not even for ourselves. It confines us in a negative space, preventing us from seeing the blessings and opportunities that surround us. Instead, start appreciating the smallest things in life. Your health, your family, your job, your home. Find a way to be thankful for them every day. 2. Embrace Loneliness and Reinvent Yourself in the Process.  No one likes to feel lonely, but solitude can be a gift if we use it ...

When we care about someone, it’s natural to want to help them through difficult times. However, sometimes our attempts to support our loved ones can backfire and lead to enabling behaviors. Enabling means that we are inadvertently supporting unhealthy habits, patterns, and behaviors in someone else. It is a complicated term that might trigger some mixed reactions, but it’s important to understand its meaning and how it might be affecting our relationships. Photo by Alex Green Enabling is not a term that we hear every day, but it’s essential to know what it means and how it can affect our lives and those around us. Enabling occurs when we provide support that helps unhealthy behaviors continue. Let’s say someone battles alcohol addiction, and we make excuses for their drinking habits or loan them money to buy alcohol instead of setting firm boundaries. We have enabled their addiction to continue. Sometimes, we enable others unconsciously and without realizing it. Enabling behaviors can ...

In today's fast-paced world, health and wellness can easily take a back seat in our daily lives. The good news is that making minor changes to our habits can lead to a significant improvement in our physical and mental health. Here are 12 simple yet effective habits that can help you achieve a healthier lifestyle. Photo by Nathan Cowley Prioritize Sleep: Sleep is often one of the most neglected aspects of our lives. However, sleep is the critical component that allows your body to recover and rejuvenate. Prioritizing your sleep by ensuring you get the recommended six to eight hours of sleep every night can boost your mood, improve focus, and even aid in weight loss. Walk More: Walking is one of the most underrated forms of exercise. It's a low-impact exercise that can be incorporated into any busy schedule. A brisk walk daily can improve circulation, reduce the risk of heart disease, and boost your immune system. Read for 30 Minutes: Reading for 30 minutes daily is an excellent...

As women, we have been conditioned to believe that our worth lies in the eyes of others. We are told that if we are beautiful, smart, funny, and successful, then we will be loved and accepted. But the truth is, people are fickle. They may love us one moment, and then abandon us the next, leaving us feeling lost and alone. It is in these moments that the importance of self-love becomes crystal clear. We must learn to love ourselves to avoid being left at the mercy of others. One of the primary reasons why it is so important to love ourselves is because seeking validation from others is a never-ending cycle. We can never truly be satisfied, no matter how much praise and adoration we receive. In the end, it is our own self-love that will sustain us through the ups and downs of life. When we rely on others to fulfill our needs, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. People will always let us down from time to time, and if we don't have a strong sense of self-love, we may spira...

Let's be clear - there are no perfect human beings. We all make mistakes. The human experience is full of ups and downs, learning as you go, applying what you've learned, and moving on. Sometimes we make mistakes and we get down on ourselves. We are our own worst critics after all. But we must remind ourselves, that our mistakes and imperfections don’t define us, they simply make us human. Our worth is not found in being perfect, but in knowing how to accept our flaws and how to learn, grow, and work towards becoming the best version of ourselves. It’s important to remember that even with all your flaws, you deserve respect and love from someone who truly values you for who you are. In fact, the right person in your life will recognize those imperfections and still want to love you for them. You Are Perfectly Imperfect  It’s human nature to make mistakes sometimes—we’re not perfect! But a man who values you will accept this about you without judgement or criticism. You don’t ha...

Self-love is the act of loving oneself. It involves accepting yourself and having high expectations for your own happiness and well-being. Over the last few years, I have been on a journey of self-love and it has been full of ups and downs. But, it has been worth every minute because I am now in a healthier place mentally, physically, and emotionally. I think it is important that as women, we recognize what love is and what it isn't. Learning how to love yourself is a great place to start that journey, because loving yourself will attract healthier relationships with others. Photo by Loe Moshkovska My Self-Love Journey I started my self-love journey with small steps — setting boundaries for myself, being mindful when making decisions, practicing positive affirmations each day, taking care of my physical body through exercise and healthy eating habits. These are all things that I had to work on within myself before I could start expecting anyone else to treat me differently or bette...

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Do it with grace?” Many of us have experienced moments where we had to hold our chin up and face a situation that felt uncomfortable or difficult. We should not let those moments tear us down, or make us hard. We should choose to live with grace instead. Living with grace means having the ability to face life’s challenges with poise, elegance, humility, and forgiveness. It is about finding the beauty in life despite the negativity around us. Even when things seem bleak or uncertain, when we live with grace we are able to see the silver lining.  Here are some tips for living with grace and ease despite the challenges you may face in life. Photo by Ogo 1. Find Your Center When facing a challenging situation, take a deep breath and find your center. This will help you remain grounded in the present moment so that you can make decisions from an informed place rather than from a place of reactivity or fear. Take your time to assess the situation and dete...

In life, it can be easy to take the things we have for granted. We often get so busy that we forget to take a moment each day to recognize and appreciate all of the blessings in our lives. Practicing gratitude is a powerful way to bring more joy into your life. Here’s why you should make time every day to count your blessings and live with gratitude. Photo by Kristina Paukshtite The Benefits of Gratitude Gratitude has been proven to help people sleep better, reduce stress levels, boost happiness, and even increase self-esteem. Studies show that expressing gratitude increases positive emotions and strengthens relationships with others. It also creates a sense of purpose and helps us stay grounded and focused on what really matters in life. When we practice gratitude, it can help us see situations from a different perspective and look for silver linings even when times are tough. It helps us focus on the good instead of becoming overwhelmed by the bad. Taking time each day to appreciate ...

Along with time and money, energy is one of your most valuable resources. And if you're a professional woman, it's a resource that's most likely in short supply. With the myriad number of professional and personal tasks you need to accomplish, while taking care of your family, you have very little - if any - energy left over for you. It's easy to understand your dilemma. Energy is defined as "having the internal or inherent power or capacity to act, operate or produce an effect." Mental, physical and emotional energy is the fuel that drives your creativity, your thinking and your ability to take action. Energy drains limit your capacity to act and create. They also deplete the inspiration and motivation that is such a crucial part of a complete and balanced life. Here are the top 5 sources of energy drain I see most often in my clients' lives, as well as some suggestions for how to eliminate them. Energy Drain #1: Keeping Details In Your Head, Instead Of I...

Have you ever felt scared of being alone? It’s a common fear many of us have. We worry that if we take time to be by ourselves, we won’t find love or value in our lives. But what if it was the opposite? What if spending time alone can actually make us stronger and more confident in ourselves? Let’s take a look at how embracing loneliness can help boost your self-confidence. Photo by Thiago Alencar Benefits of Being Alone Being alone means you get to spend quality time with yourself. This is something many people forget to do, but it’s essential for self-care and mental refreshment. When you are alone, you can focus on yourself, your dreams and passions, instead of worrying about other people or trying to please them. You can also practice mindfulness and meditation which will help relax your mind and body while clearing away any negative thoughts that may be filling up your headspace. By being alone, you also get to discover yourself better! This is an opportunity for self-discovery as...

I find self-reflection to be an important part of my healing journey.  It helps me become more aware of my accomplishments and my growth.  The end of the year is a great time for reflecting.  I have eight end-of-year reflection questions that I use.  These questions help me analyze myself, my experiences, my perception, my interactions and my actions.  This inturn helps me realize all the good that has happened over the past year.  It helps me realize my growth and gives me a sense of improvement.  At the same time, it lets me know where I need to improve.  Here are the eight questions I use for end-to-year reflection:  1. How did I take care of my body, mind, and soul? 2. What am I most grateful for? 3. What was my greatest challenge? 4. What did I have to accept? 5. What did I let go of that didn't serve me? 6. Who do I need to thank for their role in my life? 7. How did I break out of my comfort zone? 8. What am I most proud of? What are s...

Higher Purpose is not a wish list Higher Purpose is not fantasy playing Higher Purpose is not created by others; it begins with you. When someone is living in their Higher Purpose it transitions their whole way of BEING. We are fully alive and inspired. We do not just feel satisfaction, we feel fulfilled, filled with possibilities, humbled and peaceful beyond imagination. When we are not living our Higher Purpose we tend to feel unsure of ourselves, hesitant with our choices and inner duality. We possibly flounder or spend lots of time and energy on our results or forced outcomes for validation of how we feel rather than really enjoying the living and fullness that life has to offer. Knowing your Higher Purpose is not about results or "doing"- those are by-products of Higher Purpose Living. Higher Purpose is about the whom we were born to be. The first step to move into Higher Purpose Living is identification. Here is a worksheet designed to help you begin to understand yours...