Authentically Nita

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a man who keeps revisiting his past, unable to detach from his old ways? Do you often feel like your person is not truly committed to growing and evolving themselves? If so, then you might be recycling men! Recycling is when you take an old, outdated thing, and make a new use of it. You don't deserve an outdated man who is stuck in ways. You deserve someone who is continuously evolving and reinventing himself—a man who is letting go of his past, his soul ties, and his youthful mindset.  Let's talk about why you deserve better and how to avoid the pitfalls of recycling men who are stuck in their old ways. You deserve a man who is ready and willing to create a completely new version of himself. Someone who is committed to shedding his old ways, letting go of old ties, and breaking free from younger mentalities. You deserve someone who is growing. Recycled men often come with baggage that prevents them from truly evolving. Baggag...

A lot of women fall into the trap of settling for men who are not growing emotionally or mentally. So, today let's explore the importance of investing in a partner who invests in themselves. We will look at the five warning signs that a man is not growing.  Unwilling to be accountable -  A man who is not willing to take responsibility for his actions or mistakes is not growing. He may blame others for his problems, make excuses, or refuse to admit when he's wrong. This lack of accountability can cause major problems in a relationship, leading to mistrust, resentment, and emotional distance.  Unaware of his faults -  A man who doesn't recognize his faults and limitations is not growing. He may have a fixed mindset, believing that he is who he is and can't change. (You know, those, "I'm set in my ways" guys). This can be frustrating for a partner who wants to grow and evolve together.  Dependent on you for every little thing -  A man who is dependent on you ...

Let's talk about weak men. We've all come across them. The ones who blame others for their shortcomings. The ones that struggle with accountability and reject anything that challenges them to be better. In essence - the narcissistic and self-centered ones. It is not easy to deal with these men, especially when you find yourself romantically involved with them. Weak men often have fragile egos, and anything that threatens their little fragile sense of self is perceived as a threat. We have to understand that these men are not secure within themselves, and they rely on external validation to feel good about themselves. Therefore, when you try to challenge them to be better, they feel like you are attacking them, and they become defensive. They cannot handle criticism, and they struggle with personal growth. One of the reasons why weak men struggle with personal growth is that they are afraid of change. They are comfortable in their current ways, and they are not willing to step o...

Ladies, it's time to stop dating needy men. You know the ones I'm talking about, the guys who seem to only take from the relationship and never give back. The ones who drain your energy, demand your attention and always need you to do something for them. If you're tired of being the Goodwill of your relationships and donating your vagina to men who don't deserve it, then this post is for you. First, let me clarify what I mean by “needy men.” These are men who are incapable of doing anything for themselves and believe that the world owes them something. They are the ones who always need you to babysit them emotionally or financially. When you’re dating a needy man, you are the one doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship. You're paying for the majority of expenses, driving them around, and picking up their messes.  Let me emphasize the importance of reciprocity in relationships. Relationships should be about give and take. When you're doing everything for ...

The hunt for the perfect man is never-ending. We want the total package – good looks, humor, wealth, great sex, and intelligence. However, statistics show that many men are not what they seem on the outside. Many of them are just little boys in a grown man's body. Immaturity comes in all shapes and sizes. Trouble happens when we assume that the exterior of a man represents the interior character. So let's talk about how to spot a real man and what qualities make them different from little boys. Photo by KoolShooters   Real men prioritize their mental health and well-being. Mental Health is often a topic that is rarely discussed in men, and some even consider it taboo. However, it is one of the greatest signs that a man is a real man. Real men prioritize their mental health by attending therapy sessions, taking breaks when overwhelmed and participate in activities that promote relaxation and self-care. They are not afraid to admit when things are becoming too much for them, and ...

We have all encountered rude people in our lives who don't realize how their behavior can overstep boundaries and cause others to feel disrespected. It can be tempting to use their behavior as an excuse to act rudely yourself in return, but doing so only perpetuates negativity. The key to becoming a class act is to respond to their behavior with calmness and compassion. Today, I am going to discuss how affirmations can help you achieve this goal. I have compiled a list of 19 affirmations that can help you respond to rude people in a positive way and improve your interactions. So, let's dive in! Photo by Madvortex 1) "I am patient and understanding" - When someone is being rude, it is easy to let our emotions take over. Instead, take a breath and remind yourself that others' actions often reflect something deeper going on in their lives. 2) "I like being polite" - Being polite may seem like an outdated courtesy in our fast-paced world, but it can make a w...

I think ...for you to truly understand, I have to go back to the beginning.  I love, being in love, and back in my 20s it was I could dream about. I wanted a husband and a friend. I wanted a soul mate and a lover. I wanted a family. I wanted to grow old with my husband. I dreamed that one day we would be elderly sitting on our porch in rocking chairs fussing at our grandchildren together. My husband and I.  Summer Fling 2002 - I was sitting in the kitchen listening to music when my mother called. She was at work and needed tampons. I grabbed the tampons and my purse and headed out the door. It was a warm summer night. I walked to the corner and checked for the bus. Nothing. I'd have to walk the four blocks to her job. It was Friday and the whole neighborhood seemed to be outside. Teenagers roamed the streets in groups talking loudly. Cars cruised down the block with various genres of music fading away as they passed. A small crowd lingered outside the Chinese store. I walked q...